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Well that’s not what the campaign is actually called. However, that is what is getting the campaign all the attention.

Preface:

1. Facebook link
2. Blank noise
3. Rediff intv -Can locate this.. will update soon( this is the intv of the person behind the campaign)

Brief:

1. The plan is to send loads of pink colored chaddi’s to Ram Sena on Valentines day.
2. Step out and drink on Valentine’s day

I have a few issues with the idea:

Firstly, the plan urges us to send them underwears. Underwears, mind you, not jeans, not kurtas. Evidently, this is done with the intention of embarrassing the RS. I don’t see how embarrassing it would do us any good. If nothing else, it might just enrage the Ram Seniks all the more. It might also give them another reason to justify their actions-agar baaki log humare saath gand macha rahe hain to hum badla hi le rahe hain.

It is almost instinctive for us to support anyone who opposes anything we oppose. Its like negative of negative is positive (ala dushman ka dushamn, dost). What we tend to forget is that opposing a wrong action with another incorrect one is not right.

Second, why should any one of us care about the Ram Sena. Why should I do what it wants me to do or what it doesn’t want me to do? Should I rather have a mind of my own and continue with my own plans.

This plan, of doing the opposite of what the Ram Sena wants me to do, gets Ram Sena popularity. In all probability this is what it is looking for in the first place. For all you know Ram Seniks are doing this hoping for some media primetime which could help RS gain momentum for the forthcoming elections.

Another little thing that I don’t understand is why people compare PC to Gandhigiri.

Pink Chaddi is NOT Gandhigiri.

Gandhigiri requires the victim to be polite to the aggressor such that the aggressor realizes his mistake. PC is an attempt to humiliate the Ram Sena.

Anyways, just because something does not fall under Gandhigiri does not prove that it is wrong. I mean if u believe in PC, just do it.

P.S:-

Since I have no better ideas to stop the Ram Sena I request all of you to visit the website and if the plan goes well with your ideology, go on send the pink Chaddis.

Labels: Feminism

Remeber our old debate????? The one on the moral aspect of staring??


Surprisingly, in India, staring IS illegal.

This brings us to Question number 2. How do you plan to convict people with staring?

I can foresee a million loop-holes in the practical implementation of the law.

1. Is this law applicable to cock-eyed men?
2. What about men wearing shades?
3. On a more serious note, how do these people actually plan to implement something as amibiguous as this?

God knows...

P.S :- Incase the pic is not clear just click on it. This is the pic i could get.

Labels: Feminism

Lest I might have been misunderstood, I would like to clarify my stand on the “Staring Hurts” post.

My putting up the video should not be misunderstood as my support for feminists who would want men to as much as stop looking at their female members of the society.

The reason that I put this video on my blog is that it puts across a good message very well.

@ Prerak:

Staring is not illegal, nor is it wrong. But, as a matter of conscience one must realize that right and wrong are not necessarily the same as legal and illegal. Therefore, even if a person is checking out a really cute chick he must ensure that he does not make the girl uncomfortable.

Of course, what was the need of laws if every person was to act conscientiously. Here comes in the, very valid, point that Ritwik made in the comment section for the same post. (Do read the comment, here)

@ Ritwik:

What separates staring/looking from leering is the intention. Now, that is one thing that cannot be formulized as, say, a factor of time. It is possible to molest a girl in 15 seconds and also to look at the girl for hours together without the least intention to offend her.

Even if such a law does come into place, the practical implications of the law do not seem very bright. Any legal action taken against the offender would never stand a chance. The fact that a person stared at a girl would be a matter of her belief and can never be a fact; the guy could always be staring at something in the same direction. And laws can never work on beliefs they, necessarily, need facts.

And, I haven’t even got into what would happen to cases in the courts.

The legal aspect on staring is unreasonable and more over absolutely impractical, at least, as it presently stands.

Staring is more of a moral issue that should be dealt with by creating awareness and letting people know, exactly what and how they are wrong. I am sure, the problem will not be totally dealt-with but at least there will be more awareness in the public. Maybe after that we can come up with a rational / justifiable and acceptable legal stand.


P.S.: - I know,I should have posted this a lot earlier actually, the long vacation has caught up with me. I have become hopelessly lazy.
Though, I am TRYING to pull my socks up. Hope to post more often. ;)

Labels: Feminism

Labels: Feminism

I don’t understand my folks??

They will want me to marry an educated, smart , padhi-likkhi, independent girl.

What the hell yaar. We all know that an independent people are more likely to have affairs when they are young, and of-course if she could have had an affair when she was young she will have extra-marital affairs after marriage. Seriously if she had an affair in her teens she could very well be a professional slut. How will I ever be able to live with such a characterless bitch?

Anyway, my strong cosmic-link with sindhi babes (SB) is well known, so why not marry someone from here.

Its pretty simple, PICTURE THIS:

Matri Ad:

MATCH 4 95/5’ 5’’ BE BOY, Match shld be Bful, Gori, Slim, Homely, Edu. The Boy can be a humongous Orangutan, but the bride has got to be Gori/Slim.

Then:

BB marries SB

Obviously I don’t have to care about being faithful to her. Dare she question my integrity, I can always beat the living hell out of her.

Then ofcourse we ll have kids: a daughter, Phoolmati , and a son , Sindhi Dude (SD). SD will attend the boys school mentioned in the link above and Phoolmati will, obviously, faithfully follow her mothers footsteps.

I will instill in her our cultural values. I will tell her to shift her line-of-sight by 90 degrees if any guy ogles at her. If any guys gropes her in public, she will quietly ignore him else her sanctity will be lost and she will become "used". So it makes complete sense to keep quiet.


................ And the Cycle Continues...................

GROSS.

Labels: Baba Bashing, Feminism

The trouble, Ques that one often faces a number of times.
Ek taraf kuan hai aur Ek taraf Kahai.

Taking a decision at the spur of the moment is a must. One decision makes me look like an aggressive, josh-mein-hosh-khone-vaala guy, and the other makes me feel stupid about myself.
You may accuse me of being a phatu or may praise me for doing the obvious. But, that doesn't really help, the guilt feeling (however minimal) does linger around for sometime.

The decision, I take, is usually based on some prejudices, maybe right or wrong. I know any normal girl would not want it happening and would want to oppose it. But most of them have so comfortably reconciled to the fact that it is "normal" enough to even oppose it. And in my case the usual main factor is the look on her face which invariably is I-am-soo-uncomfortable-But-I-am-not-gonna-raise-my-voice, which automatically means I will try and ignore "it" too.

From personal experiences I understand that if women raise their voices in public, at that moment, the public does care of the predator. Ironically most of the men who beat the man would themselves be such perverts, but ofcourse behti Ganga mein to sabh hi haat dhote hain.

In the mean time, I am not going to risk my ass to save urs.
As they say "Bhaiyya Helps those who Help themselves".

Labels: FCB, Feminism

Well again, this one was not queued up. Apologies for that.

@zen babu I might not owe my sense of humour entirely to u, but its definitely not the same for the feminist-in-me.

@ Anti-feminist 1 : If u think feminists are men-hating lesbians ... Wake up.
@ Anti-feminist 2 : If u think feminists are ugly girls who are jealous of their more female counterparts.. Go talk to the Hottest Female, u know, about this maybe she can help you cut the crap.



I was just reading some of the blogs @ blanknoise wondering why, as a society, do we go so wrong ( I choose to not plunge into the History aspect of male chauvinism, will cover that some other time ).

This is about the time when I was around probably 10 years old, a carefree, fun loving kid. I lived in a multi-storied building (Needless to say it had a lift). Now this building happened to entirely occupied by Sarkaari Babus and it was all like a family the everyone-knows-everyone types.

Obviously everyone uses the lift like 20 times a day. It was big enough to accommodate 8-10 people. In one such lift-journey I was going down with a female-friend(N) to play. The journey lasted for about 20seconds(3rd floor to ground floor). Suddenly after stepping out of the lift N started crying inconsolably. I was flummoxed "Kya hua!!! Did you hurt yourself or something??? Kya hua yaar!!"

After a lot of eavesdropping (I am SORRY for that), I learnt that "the majdoor, he was with us in the lift, had done something to N". What that was that "something" I did not understand. Later I did take some friends into confidence to know what, exactly, had happened(I dint want the explicit details).

Today, it is not tough for me to understand the "What".

I do appreciate and respect, the reasons behind their keeping the whole incident under wraps. It is undoubtedly, impossible for me to put myself in place of the girl and understand what she went through. Yet, I must add, had I known the "What" 10 years ago I may have been a lot more cautious, may have prevented some of these incidents from happening, may have appreciated these issues better, may have...

It is essential to involve your brothers and other close friends and to let them know about such incidences. Believe me, it does make a difference.

Labels: Feminism